From bondage to freedom.

 

A married woman named Rita, was going through a very bad phase of her life. She never felt happy. Rita was married for 18 years now and yet she was finding it very difficult to communicate with her husband.

She was never really happy even when she lived with her parents. Rita wondered, “Why am I never happy? Why do I always feel like I’m bound to something? Why do I feel like I’m stuck in this life? Will I never be free? Will I never be able to experience actual happiness?”

Rita was exhausted of such a life. She wanted to change it for the better. She started seeking answers to her questions. During this quest of hers, she met a very wise man. She asked him, “Sir, why do I never feel happiness or content with anything in my life? I want to end this cycle of suffering.”

 

To this the wise man replied:

“Challenges are nothing new in people’s lives. But, someone who deems themselves as a victim of circumstances, feel that if any challenge occurs in their lives, it is solely because they are bound by the circumstances, the people around them. They leave everything on their fates. People having such a world view keep struggling to find actual happiness in their life”.

He further clarified, “This is the first stage of life known as the victim stage”.

 

Stages of spiritual growth.

To this the woman, Rita, asked, “Well, sir I want to get out of this painful existence. Is there no way to do that?”

The wise man looked at her bemusedly but replied nonetheless. “As I mentioned earlier. People are born in certain situations and consider themselves as victims. Most people spend all of their lives in the victim stage. There are, however, people who want to change their monotonous life, take charge and develop both personally and spiritually. But, like every other thing, spiritual growth does not occur overnight. It is a process of various stages which, if followed, leads to sure success”.

This intrigued Rita. She couldn’t help but ask, “So, what are these stages?”.

The wise man smiled and proceeded to answer her question.

“The first stage of spiritual growth, or the second phase of life is when the person starts thinking about their life and wants to take charge of it. This is the “I am in charge” stage. You can go through various materials or books like “You can heal your life.” Or even listen and follow the teachings of masters like Abraham Hicks. Start interacting with people who are either in the same situation or maybe have been in the situation before. You might get introduced to new ideas. This is also the time you become aware of your thoughts and beliefs.”

Rita seemed to be very engrossed in the conversation. So, the spiritually intelligent man further elaborated:

“You will start shifting your thoughts and work towards transforming your life. You will start experiencing shifts in your outlook from negative to positive and gradually start experiencing freedom in your life. You will not feel bound or like a victim of the circumstances anymore. Instead of leaving everything on fate, you will start taking charge of your life.”

Rita was interested to know further. She asked the wise man of words to explain her further about the stages of spiritual development.

Without further ado the wise man started elaborating further.

“Now comes the second stage of development or the third phase of life.”

“After the first stage, people start feeling free. Though they also realize that, everything still does not really go in their way. They feel in charge of their life, but still there are areas where they might not find any control”.

“It is the second stage where people feel that, there is something beyond their control. Something that holds much more value and quality. It is a whole different dimension altogether. When one connects to this dimension, people find a lot of clarity. People get much more creative solutions for their problems. When people follow the guidance they feel freer. People develop a sense of intuition. This is called, Aligning with the HIGHER BEING/SELF. You can still feel separate and yet be connected to the HIGHER BEING. It can be named as the “Divinity is in charge” stage.”

The spiritual coach also added that, “Most people live in the victim stage, but few connect to the first phase of spiritual development, thanks to internet and various self help books. While minuscule reach the second stage if they really try.”

Rita had understood this much. But, the thirst for knowledge knows no end. So she again pried, “Sir, is there any other stages in this process?”.

The wise man replied, “Yes, there is.”

Noticing that Rita still seemed interested, the man of wisdom continued.

 

“Now comes the third and final stage of spiritual development or the fourth phase of life, which very few, almost negligible amount of people reach. It is the “I and divine are one” stage”.

“This is the stage where people feel oneness with the ultimate. People lose consciousness of the materialistic world. They merge with the divine. Worldly losses does not affect that much. Few spiritually advanced masters like Ramkrishna Paramhans, Sai Baba, Satya Sai and many more, were able to reach this stage. People who reach the third stage, feel a different kind of peace and harmony in their lives. They are always calm. Petty issues do not bother them”.

At the end of this conversation, it was visible to Rita where she had gone wrong. She thanked the man and went on her way, but this time with a lot of understanding. She had made up her mind.

She was determined to transform her life and take whatever steps necessary. She started introspecting. She took her thoughts and beliefs more seriously. She started giving importance to her feelings.

 

 

And gradually but surely, she started noticing a shift in herself. She felt free. She wasn’t gloomy anymore. She felt a different kind of peace. With sheer determination, Rita changed her life for the better. As a result, everyone around Rita noticed this positive shift. Even they felt happy now.

Living one’s life as a victim and feeling sorry for oneself never helps. Leaving the strive for worldly pleasures in order to achieve something higher, is what will help people to feel free and peaceful in their lives.

When a person wants to move past the first phase of victim stage and take charge of their lives they’ll automatically notice a shift in their thoughts and even their life.

So, pause for a while and take stock of your life. Assess where you are is it the

  1. Victim stage, or
  2. I am responsible stage, or
  3. Divinity responsible stage, or
  4. I and divine are one stage.

Now envision where do you want to be. Start working for reaching the next stage and keep working in that direction until you reach the final stage of development.

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