If you want to have great relationships, one of the keys is to start relating to people in an empowering way.
Similarly, there was a time when a female client of mine told me that her husband doesn’t have emotions and he doesn’t take care of their family. Now, the way she related to her husband by saying,” he doesn’t have emotions.” Would not create any positive conversations or relationships.
Since she was relating to him in such a disempowering way, her relationship got further strained and now it became difficult for them to even communicate with each other.
There was a time when I was having a strained relationship with my spouse, and I used to think that she was always complaining, finding faults, being negative, and was not taking responsibility.
So as long as I was relating to her like this, our communication was failing. But, when I changed the way in which I was relating to her and realised that she wasn’t being negative.
But, she was just worried and concerned about the future which was being expressed in the way of her communication. (When I started relating to her in an empowering way is when our communication and our relationship improved.)
So, if you want to have a great relationship, one of the keys is to start relating to them in an empowering way. The way to do this is by relating people to their potential, by relating them to what they can be rather than by what they have been.